Couples Conflict Questionnaire (CCQ)

The following statements describe things people sometimes do during disagreements with their partner. Please indicate how often each one happens in your relationship.

  1. Attacking the other person's personality or character.
  2. Blaming the other person when things go wrong.
  3. Using overgeneralisations during disagreements "you always, you never."
  4. Striking at an emotional vulnerability or weakness to hurt the other person.
  5. Pointing out mistakes and inadequacies.
  6. Using insults and name calling.
  7. Using hostile humour, sarcasm or mockery.
  8. Showing negative body language and using a negative tone of voice.
  9. Demeaning the other person in front of other people.
  10. Making decisions without concern for the other person's feelings.
  11. Playing the victim or innocent party.
  12. Yes butting - starting by agreeing and then disagreeing.
  13. Making excuses or deflecting the causes to circumstances beyond ones control.
  14. Matching a criticism or complaint with a criticism or complaint of one's own.
  15. Repeating one's self without paying attention to what the other person is saying.
  16. Using stony silence during conflict.
  17. Avoiding eye-contact after disagreements.
  18. Using monosyllabic mutterings or speaking under one's breath.
  19. Changing the subject in an attempt to avoid the issue.
  20. Leaving the room or walking away from conflict.

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